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Tuesday, December 20, 2011

I was told I need to update this blog more consistently or people will stop reading it. Which is probably true, except that assumes there are actually people who read it.

To emphasize the point, I was told I better have a new post up by 11 PM tonight. There was no "or else" attached to it, it was just kind of scarily implied, like how "Never, never feed him after midnight" means "HE'LL TURN INTO A FUCKING GREMLIN."


Who, me?


(Sidenote, that may be the dumbest rule ever-- "after midnight" is technically the next day, which means it's actually always "before midnight" on any given day, right? I was gonna say second dumbest rule after the offsides rule in soccer, but Blogger says I have a lot of readers in the U.K. and I'm already losing enough through lack of consistency as is.)


Anyway, it's the holidays, and lots of people are leaving the city to see friends and family they've been missing. And also to eat a fuck ton of food, but I'm not gonna talk about that because I'm starting to want a sandwich now and it's almost my deadline.

I've been thinking a lot about those friends and people from home recently though. Because if you've moved to the city and are away from the friends you've spent your whole pre-city life with, sometimes you just fucking miss those people.

In fact there are times I wish I could teleport them all here, to enjoy the city with me...but that's the point. Those people are my friends precisely because we CAN'T teleport whoever we want to us. We're stuck with who we've got. If I could teleport people to me I wouldn't have even needed them as friends in the first place, because when I was like seven I would've just teleported the Power Rangers to me and hung out with them all the time.

But instead you make friends with those people. Because you went to school with them, or lived close to each other, or made each other laugh, or were in situations to help each other, or all of the above or whatever. And even though some of us may be somewhat (or a-lot-what) different people now, you love them and you miss them. Especially since many of them were friends in really crucial, developmental times.

The thing is, unless you want to pretend you have life the universe and everything figured out (like only a Hitchhiker's Guide character or a douche bag would say they do), these are STILL developmental times. So while it makes sense then that I want to surround myself with those friends who have already been there for me, I have to recognize that it's this precise situation-- being thrown into a new setting, being alone, learning new things, etc.-- that actually spawned those friendships in the first place.

And while it's fine to miss people and marvel at how unique those times were, it shouldn't be at the expense of knowing right NOW is just as unique. That, if I'm lucky enough to live however many years from now, I may find myself missing people from THIS time too.

At least until they build a teleportation machine and I get those god damn Power Rangers over here.


(Posted at 11:10 PM. Fashionably late. I mean, this is a model blog, right?)